Support for Teens
“Before I felt alone, my friends didn’t talk to me about my Dad. I know I’m not the only one now, and I’ve made friends at the TiG (Teens in Grief) group” Emily, aged 13, whose Dad died.
Teenage years are great, but they can be difficult too. You go through so many changes – physical changes, emotional ups and downs, exams, friendships – and all these things can make life feel out of control and overwhelming at times. When you experience the death of someone close to you it can feel particularly hard to deal with, and the thoughts and feelings you have afterwards is what we call ‘grief’.
Here are Families in Grief we can help you to understand and cope with your grief, and if you decide to join our support group for young people, then you will also meet others who are in the same position as you.
Remember: whatever you feel is ok!
Grief is different for everyone. There are no right or wrong feelings to have, and it doesn’t matter if your feelings are different from other people who have been affected by the death. It isn’t helpful to compare or to try to be like someone else.
Remember: you are not going mad!
Here are some of the most common feelings experienced by young people who are grieving:
- feeling sick or having tummy pains
- feeling panicky and breathless
- finding it hard to concentrate
- feeling angry
- losing control easily
- wanting to hurt yourself or someone else
- feeling numb
- finding it hard to sleep
- eating less or eating more
- feeling like you can’t be bothered to do anything, even things you used to enjoy
- feeling different from everyone else
Have you felt any of these? There may be other things that you are feeling too – and you might feel all of these things in one day! It is no wonder that grieving is so exhausting.
Remember: be kind to yourself!
It can be really hard to think of anything that will make you feel better. Here are some ideas that other young people have found helpful:
- talking to friends or family
- writing a journal
- going for a walk
- spending time outdoors
- spending time with your pets
- listening to music
- taking a warm bath
- drawing or painting
- having fun with friends – chatting, gaming
- Joining a support group for young people like ‘Teens in Grief’
If things are feeling overwhelming, and you would like some help then please contact us.
We run a support group called ‘Teens in Grief’ or ‘TiG’ (one of our young people in the group came up with this name!) It’s your chance to meet up with other young people your age who have also experienced the death of someone close to them, this can help you to feel less alone.
We understand that you might be a bit nervous before the first session, that’s normal! You’ll soon find that everyone is really friendly and welcoming and you may even make some new friends.
We will encourage you to take part in both creative and physical activities to help you get to know the others in the group, to think about your feelings, and to remember the person that died.
If you decide to take part then you’ll meet up with us every week for six weeks.
The ‘Teens in Grief’ programme looks like this:
Week 1: Introductions and Telling Your Story
Week 2: Memories
Week 3: Emotions
Week 4: Saying Goodbye
Week 5: How to Handle Grief
Week 6: Looking to the Future
We have a free downloadable booklet especially for teenagers that have experienced the death of a parent, relative or friend. It’s really easy to read and has some good ideas about how you can help yourself. You may like to look at it by clicking here:Guide for Teens
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